How to survive?

Last week the 16th season's "Survivor" has finished. Another new 1 million dollars winner came out. This season was fantastic. I do believe I need to write something about this reality show. I mean I have been a fan of this show for more than 10 years.

In fact it is not necessary for me to waste time to introduce this nearly the most popular reality show in the world. My point is that to a 13 years old girl, the most attractive part of this show was competition, which was full of physical contact and intelligent comparison. As time goes by, their lives in the tribe become more and more interesting. Through these scenes, I came to understand that the reality is so so improbity, flooded with lie and cheating. I followed five seasons, but finally I lost my interest, because I was so disappointed about reality. However, those seasons taught me some very important things how to survive in this harsh reality.

The most important thing is, never speak too much. Every season those made a lot of conversations always easily arouse the others dislike. Just in case they can enter the final 3, they were hard to get support from the jury. There is an old Chinese saying "talk much and err much". The second is, never compliant in public. People would never like the people who compliant a lot. Once you compliant, you just present your attitude to the people and the event especially when your team was defeated. One of my friends told me an English proverb "unpleasant endings emerge from lawsuits" . Third, find the right person as your ally. Yon can not win the game without other's help. They help you to win not because they are your friends, since they reciprocate from you. Last, maybe the most important, never stop observing your surroundings including circumstances and people. Chinese famous strategist Sun Tzu who lived in 2500 years before said "Know the enemy and know yourself, and you can be invincible."

For sure I got a lot of information from this show, much more than these four points, like "you can not be friend to everyone, but at least you do not have enemy", "Haste does not bring success", huge-crowd strategy, and etc. But for me these four points are much more important. I have not aware that since I had to face this reality society.

After the graduation, I started my first job in a bank. Compared the simple interpersonal relationship in the school, I felt like a fish without water. I treated people sincerely, but they stabbed in the back. At the beginning I just wanna did what I really was. But you know, being yourselves sometimes was too cool to the others. So I changed my strategies to be as friendly as I can. It was tough, however it was reality. So you call these people as your ally. You do need help from them. Observing others, those garrulous one even their personalities were not troublesome, it is difficult to let people like them. Oppositely, once you speak something not good for someone, he or she would always remember. Anything of complain has nothing good, which would expose your shortcoming and flaw in a person's character. Struggling in a bank department really trained me.

I indeed think this four point have already been rooted in my blood. Sometimes they work very well but not always. We are alwasy stuggling in this trappy world. Everyone is survivor, but just not everyone can win 1 million dollas. I still have a dream as a little girl 10 years before, oneday I can play in the "survivor".