I had been flirting with the idea of deactivating or
shutting down my Facebook account for a while. Increasingly convinced that I
was so unhealthy preoccupied by that website, I would still waste time to craft
absurd numbers of witty wall posts, imagining how it would look through the
eyes of the others by generating the most “likes”. When I cannot help stalking someone I
shouldn’t care, the monotony of Facebook finally got on me and I quitted. But I
didn’t delete the account.
After eight months of life without Facebook, surprisingly,
how little I miss it. My friends made fun of me as an anachronism, when they
were forced by the fact I wasn’t on Facebook to contact me by emails or
messages. Sure, I feel out of the loop when gossip was around or jokes from
Facebook were mentioned.
However, compared to what I have gained, life without
Facebook is tremendous. My day is quitter now in my mind world. I might miss a
lot of interesting details of others’ life, but I got most important things by
personal contact. No longer do I wonder about what is or isn’t worth sharing
online. Instead, I focus on more introspective stuff. I read, I watch, I write
(still not that much), I have long conversations with my friends, and learn
things. I am still able to express myself by talking face to face, or this blog
(rarely be reviewed).
Life overseas seems strange without Facebook when most of
your friends are scattered over every continents. But have you even thought
about that friendships take place not through the amount of comments, likes or
messages we share. Are these the
friendships themselves? Friendships should be in a heart to heart type of
fashion. Sometimes we lose track of it. It is not that important being always
connected, and the connection in hearts is the only thing real.
I must admit sometime I miss the convenience and the social
connectedness that Facebook provides. But it is useful to learn to stand on my
own. It is powerful to know I can. At the end, “life everywhere is life, life is
in ourselves and not in the external”.
I am thinking about getting back on anytime soon. I know I
am a different user now.
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